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Dad and I never really got along well - except maybe when I was a little child.

At the end of last year he got ill. Got him pretty bad. Was in hospital for several weeks and afterwards in rehab for some more weeks. All in all I think it took up to four months.

During that time I was quite angry with him for some reasons. I vistited him once in hospital and furtheron made no real efforts to call him, except for two times, or talk to him or such. Did no good to our already bad relationship.
It's not that I was not aware of his condition - I know pretty well he nearly died, and all that time I really wished we would have got along better. But he didn't seem to be willing to admit that our relationsip's not only my fault. It's also not the case that I was not interested in how he was doing. I just didn't want to talk to him or anything, because I knew it would have ended up in trouble and that's the last thing he could have needed, that wouldn't have done him any good.

Whatsoever, after he returned from the rehab he seemed to have changed - and that's not only his health and his weight. He seemed to be willing to work on our relationship.
For some time I was suspicious and there're still many things about him and his behaviour that bother me and sometimes still make me want to edge his head on some nearby wall - something's got to make him walk straight and see things clear and realistic!
I'm not saying that we get along well now, but at least a bit better. It's a beginning and for me it's important. I don't see why I should refuse his efforts to change something about us.

And then last week he got fever again with no other signs for an illness or so. Probably it's a relapse. Don't know. But last night it got worse. At least this time we get along well enough for me to visit him daily. Don't want something like the situation last year happen again.
Pride and stubbornness don't help anything in the long term.


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*steeber Feb 27, 2009, 12:35:38 PM
That's first class work.

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"Oh we're FLOATIN' down the Hudson!" - Thomas Fats Waller
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~jesushero Mar 1, 2009, 5:55:50 PM
Wow.. What happened to him? You never told me anything about this..

Family is family, you can't leave them behind, like you would do with a friend you no longer get along with. You just have to find the right balance.. You don't have to talk to your family every day, but you should try to figure out how often you can talk to them before it's "too often" and you start getting sick of each other.

I used to have a very bad relationship with my family until I moved out when I was 17. Since then it's been getting better, but it didn't really improve much until I moved 5000km away.. Now I see them once or twice a year for a week or so, but at least we're having a great time.
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~CathleenParagon Mar 2, 2009, 5:59:39 AM
is it? :blushes: well then, thank you

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~CathleenParagon Mar 2, 2009, 6:10:47 AM
had an encephalitis. didn't feel like talking much about it.
at least it's no relapse, as we feared before. last night he had his first night without any fever attacks for about a week and it seems to be retrogressive (huh, what a word!). though they still don't know what caused the fever. but they say they're finding out. i hope so. grandma's got the same symptoms but she refuses to go to the doctor, so up to now she didn't get the medical treatment as dad got. i'm really worried about her, but she's so damn stubborn. yesterday was the first time ever i really argued with her and came to raise my voice.

i never got along with my sister until we got seperate rooms and she finally moved out. and honestly i get along better with the whole of my family since i only get to see them at the weekends. distance really is a thing that helps a lot.

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Truth Has A Bat On Their Head!
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*steeber Mar 2, 2009, 6:20:14 AM
I recently, as coincidence, took pictures of my Dad in hospital. Unfortunately, it was his time. So I understand this and think the series is strong and clear. Well done.

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"Oh we're FLOATIN' down the Hudson!" - Thomas Fats Waller
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~CathleenParagon Mar 2, 2009, 6:36:12 AM
I'm sorry to hear. Hope it didn't come too suddenly.

Thanks again

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Truth Has A Bat On Their Head!
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~jesushero Mar 2, 2009, 2:47:03 PM
Sounds bad.. I wish them all the best. Medical events are the worst thing ever..

Yup, distance does wonders..
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*steeber Mar 2, 2009, 3:52:35 PM
Suddenly enough. A fall led to other problems, and then more problems. At one point he decided it was enough. At least he got to decide. Considering what he had gone through (including the Holocaust), it was the least he was owed.

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"Oh we're FLOATIN' down the Hudson!" - Thomas Fats Waller
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